You're Failing Forward
Have you ever heard that failure is a part of life? Failure (that dreaded word) can take the appearance of setbacks, mishaps, mistakes, complications or disappointments. Failing shouldn't be a scary thing, not necessarily, because without failure, how would we learn? Therefore, when we do encounter these maddening and irksome moments, we must remind ourselves that we are failing forward.
Despite looking at failure as an inevitable and essential part of life, society puts a lot of pressure on people to be perfect. The popular, and somewhat inescapable, usage of social media does not lessen that weight. Sometimes, we can see the stories or tweets and compare others' successes to our own or lack thereof. I know I have from time to time.
Rather recently though, I had to remind myself that we are all going to struggle through some obstacle. Even those who seem to breeze through life have encountered it, they just aren't publicizing it! Personally, I've really beaten myself up about certain situations not playing out the way I wanted them to in the past. However, some of life's biggest disappointments can be blessings in disguise. That job didn't call back? That one wasn't the right one for you. You made it through the interview but still didn't hear back anything? God has a better option for you. Be not afraid because someone will want you and everything you have to offer!
Failing forward means you have the mindset that says, "I am not failing, I am growing." You are an overcomer and you must keep the faith. This is the type of mindset that will carry you through when you do land that dream job because even when you get that position, you may still be met with some difficulties. Don't fret. Success is inevitable when you're persistent. In the face of failure, we must never give up.
Here's another tip: know your intentions, but be flexible about your methods. I've viewed things as problematic when I didn't get exactly what I wanted or things didn't go exactly how I envisioned them in my head. However, keeping an open mind helps you to realize that you're really not as bad off as you thought (we usually are our toughest critics). You are the master of your reality and perspective is key.
Finding a job has been my default example, but this same ideology can be applied to trying out a new hobby or looking for the right partner to settle down with. At the end of the day, life's difficulties are supposed to make us stronger, even though it feels like they can turn us down and out. But instead of breaking down, remember to stay focused and motivated.