The U.S. Election Showed Us that It's a "Man's World", But it Doesn't Have to Be
It’s no surprise that men dominate the fitness industry. And with little to no clothing women wear in fitness competitions, it’s pretty obvious that much of it is geared towards the male gaze. It’s difficult to be successful as a personal trainer and even more so as a female trainer. You have to know your craft, be business savvy, look good, have a great personality, but you will also have to take criticism and shade from men.
Male clients want male trainers, because a woman can’t possibly work them hard enough. Trust me when I tell you I’ve busted some balls within the first five minutes of training some of these guys. Pretty embarrassing for them, especially because I knew that they didn’t take this 5-foot trainer seriously. And that’s all right; I thoroughly enjoyed inflicting pain (read: facilitating exercise) on any client that is willing to listen to me.
Since fitness is so male dominated, I often worked with mostly men. Some of these men didn’t value the opinions or input of women. Un-open to new ideas they couldn’t retain any of their female trainers, which make it difficult when female clients want a female trainer. And guess what gender trains the most?
As hard has it was trying to deal with all the testosterone, I learned a lot from them in how to run a business, be direct and straight-forward, and acquired a take no shit attitude. I do feel that women are very afraid of how people perceive us and we are afraid of being labeled as a bitch, but we need to get over that… Like NOW. We need to get these coins. A hard work ethic isn’t just for men; it’s not working like a man, it's just working hard.
With the recent results of the election, many women are probably feeling extremely discouraged. Not only are many white men racist, but also it seems that even our white female counterparts don’t like us either, and have placed priority on their whiteness rather than with their sisters. That just makes my head shake, and I will never truly understand it.
The important thing to take into consideration is that we have been dealing with this for years. Historically white males have been paid more than us, been hired for more jobs, make more money than us, etc. But why should we let that stop us? Why throw in the towel? We are no strangers to this discrimination and adversity. If anyone knows how hard we work it’s US!
We, women of color, have to work harder than white males and white women, and have been living that way forever. We don’t know anything else. Let’s take this time to band together.